Hello there, It’s tuesday! I hope this blog post finds you all well, this week I’ll dive into a topic that I’ve had much experience and trouble with all at the same time. But as time passes I have collected so much insight concerning this one topic, Godly Friends. Who are your friends? If you tell me who your friends are I can tell you where you’re headed my mom still says till this day. Let’s dive in!
So little energy is invested in the people we are around. And yet they influence so much of our actions and thought process. My mother loved saying that if you can tell me who your friends are, I can tell you where you are headed. And if this saying is true, then this meant I needed to spend more time thinking about who I’d let in the prime real estate of my life. For many years, I wasn’t intentional about friendships and so I had people linger around me that though they weren’t horrible people they couldn’t edify me the way I needed. I needed to pursue godly friendships.
What kind of friends do you have?
If you tell me who your friends are then I will tell you where you’re headed. Who are your close friends? Are they fruitful? The bible says that you will know those who are godly by their fruits. What fruits? Well Galatians 5:22-23 says,
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
Are your friends loving or critical? Do they grumble all the time, do they find a reason to be miserable at all times? What about peace? Do you feel peace around these “friends”? Are they good to others, faithful in hard times and gentle in telling you the truth? Do they even rebuke you when they know you’re wrong, and aren’t afraid to tell you the truth in love? Do they possess self-control? If you answered in a negative way to these questions, then you might be headed for trouble. Do I mean that we should be cut throat about our friends, critical and not graceful? No! We all fall short from God’s glory, meaning we will al fail at one point or another. The difference is that a good friend will bring you good, and not harm most of the time. These above-mentioned characteristics are the biblical blueprint that I am learning to go by when considering having a close friend. Was I always so intentional? No, I wasn’t but as I get older I’ve become more and more intentional of who I allowed in my inner circle. In 1 Corinthians 15:33 it says,
“Do not be misled: bad company corrupts good character”
I love that this verse states, “do not be misled”. Meaning don’t fool yourselves, don’t think you are stronger than you truly are, don’t underestimate the power of bad company. We are dead to sin, we were crucified with Christ and now it is He who reigns in our lives. But we CAN still fall into the trap of the enemy. Bad company corrupts good character. It doesn’t state that bad company CAN corrupt good character, it says that it WILL corrupt good character. In middle school, and high school we called EVERYONE friend. But once we get older we should be able to purge out those who just aren’t edifying you. If your friends pull you away from God instead of closer, then keeping them around will cost you. One way or another you’ll be compromising something or losing something in the long run that will scar you for life. I remember the times I made the dumbest mistakes in my life are when I had no good friendships around me. And that’s not to say I am not accountable for my actions, but it is to say that because I am accountable for my actions I need to watch out for those who influence them. So, save yourself the heartache, and pursue biblically fruitful people to influence you in this walk with God, people whom will invest in you, and will push you forward.
You CANNOT Walk this Walk alone!
I know what you’re thinking, “I rather be alone then”. No! No! No! Walking alone isn’t only lonely but it’s dangerous to do so. In Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 it states,
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either of them falls one can help the other up, but pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lies down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Through one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three stands is not quickly broken.”
Having someone to pick you back up when you fall is beneficial. Two are better than one, I have friends that run to my rescue the moment I am down. And boy am I happy they are around. I have godly family members who not only will help me up, but also pray for me in my time of need. I have friends who when my thoughts go on the wild side they can detect the lie of the enemy before I can believe them. Friends are important, I’ll say it again FRIENDS are IMPORTANT! We cannot do this alone, we need godly counsel around us always. The bible says to pity the man who has no one to lift them up, because it is easier to stay down when you have no one to point you up towards God.
If today you find yourself in a lonely season of your life, where God has already removed people from your life then I pray that God gives you friends who will uplift you, help you and counsel you when needed. I remember a season where I had one friend, and that friend at the time was all I needed to help me weather the storms. Today I am blessed to have many friends for different purposes. Finding them required humbling myself, and not thinking that I was better than anyone else. Being intentional doesn’t mean demeaning others, it just means that you understand what right now you are lacking and need to go shopping for it asap.
P.S You’ll notice that at the bottom of each blog I will write, Ebenezer. It means “God has brought me this far”. It reminds me that I am here because of HIM! And now you’ll know this too.
Till Next Week,